Journalling is something that I have been trying to perfect for the last few years. I tried several iterations of journalling and none of them stuck. That was until I went old school and started to write with a pencil and paper.
Until recently, I used the 5 minute Journal and I loved it. While it is a great journal, there was not enough space for me to get my thoughts on to paper. I’m very grateful for the 5 minute Journal for introducing me to the habit of writing daily but sadly I have moved on.
Writing on paper V a keyboard is therapeutic and it helps to give me a lot of clarity. Once something is written down then my mind feels lighter. This helps frees up bandwidth to focus on more important things, like being a dad and writing.
6 ways That Journalling Has Made Me a Better Parent
1.Journalling Helps To Improve My Mood
The first thing that I do when I wake up is write for 5-15 minutes. Sometimes it takes longer as my consciousness goes from my mind through my hand and on to the paper. One of the the questions that I ask myself in my journal is what are the 3 things that I’m grateful for?
I try to answer this with a different answer every time. It is easy to say my children, my family and my health but I want to challenge myself to find more things that I’m grateful for.
Focusing on other things that are not so obvious helps to improve my mood. For example, I will say that I am grateful that I have clean water, for the sounds of the birds chirping outside and that I can read. These are just examples of the many things that I have to be grateful for. Writing them down helps me to be content with what I have.
2. Journalling Helps Me To Learn From My Mistakes
If you are like me then you make lots of mistakes. Instead of beating myself up about being human, I see each mistake as an opportunity to learn. Every mistake that I make I write down in my journal. Then I’ll ask myself what did I learn and how can I improve in the future.
These are mistakes that I make in work, in my relationship and in life in general. Life is full of chances for us to learn if we look at it the right way. Journalling reinforces the learning and helps me to improve quickly.
Recently, I was not exercising and I felt bad about it. In my journal I wrote about feeling bad about not exercising. The reason was I was not doing my morning workout was I was waking up when my babies woke up. This meant I had no time to do a workout. I decided to go to bed and get up earlier. Waking up before the babies gave and working our helped me to feel much better.
3. Journalling Helps Me To Remember Stories That Would Have Been Forgotten.
When you have children, each day is filled with amazing experiences that are quickly forgotten. If you have taken a picture then you will remember your experience. The problem is, you cannot photograph everything, particularly funny stories.
The best way to remember something is to write it down. When it is written down then you can read back over memories that would have otherwise been forgotten. This is one of my favourite aspects about journalling
4. Journalling Makes Me Less Stressed.
There is something very powerful about getting your thoughts out of your head an onto paper. When you have a lot of things to do and are facing constant challenges as a parent, it can be stressful.
Writing down what is bothering you helps you to see things from a different perspective. It also helps you to come with solutions for life’s problems. Every morning, in my journal, I write 3 things that I need to do that day. At the end of the day, I review my day and this forces me to get the important things done. If I get my three things done then I have had a successful day and I feel less stressed.
5.Journalling Creates An Environment For A Happy Family.
One of my main focuses in life is to be the best dad that I can be. To be the best dad, I need to show up for my children on all fronts every day. I want them to grow up in a loving environment with happy parents and all the tools they need to grow into happy adults.
Writing in my journal helps me to improve on so many fronts as I am constantly tracking my progress. Monitoring my daily performance helps me to constantly improve as a parent and as man. Journalling helps me to create an environment for a happy family. If the environment is not happy then I write about it and how I can improve on it.
6.Writing Daily Stories Forces Me To Live A Little
Journalling has forced me to live a better life. It sounds strange but I don’t want to let myself down at the end of each day. When it comes time to writing in my journal, I want to feel like I have maximised that day.
For example, it is now summer in Berlin and the weather is ideal for getting out and about. Sometimes I feel tired when I come home form work but I force myself to bring the kids to a playground. It takes hard work to get them there but it is always worth it. Not only do they have a great time and sleep better but I lived a little more that day.
Why Should You Start a Journal?
If you are facing any challenges in life then I would highly recommend starting a journal. Keep it very simple, write on paper and be consistent. It is one of the most revolutionary things that I have ever done and it has changed my life for the better.
Journalling is very easy to do and the process is enjoyable. Journalling will make you a better parent, partner and person. Finally, keeping a journal will help to give you clarity and to understand yourself better.
Thanks for reading, I would love to hear your thoughts on journalling in the comments below.