How to create a bond with your Baby? A Dad’s guide to baby bonding.

This list will teach you how to create a bond with your baby. Being a dad is one of the most rewarding and challenging things that you will ever do. Naturally, children have a closer bond with their mother, they have lived in her womb, she gave birth to them, she breastfed them and much more. Dad’s have a lot of catching up to do when it comes to creating a bond with their baby. It takes commitment and effort but it is worth every second of work you put in.

How To Create A Bond With Your Baby – 9 Ways for Dads to bond with their baby.

Read to them every day – How to Create a bond with your baby.

How To Create A Bond With Your Baby - 9 Ways for Dads to bond with their baby.
How To Create A Bond With Your Baby – Reading!

Do you want your baby to become a little bookworm? There is no better way to get them interested in books than by reading to them before bed. Take 20 minutes every night to read 5 pages to your baby. It will help with language development and create an interest in reading that will last forever. Read something fun to make it enjoyable. I started reading Harry Potter as I had never read it before and we both love it.

Sing to your baby – How to Create a bond with your baby.

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How To Create A Bond With Your Baby – Sing to your baby

There is nothing more satisfying than seeing the glint in your babies eye as they watch you sing a song to them. If you can add an instrument and your baby will be mesmerised. Playing the guitar and singing some nursery rhymes is one of the best ways of entertaining a baby. Singing to them is also a fun way to educate your baby while creating a bond that will last a lifetime

Play games – How to Create a bond with your baby.

How To Create A Bond With Your Baby - Play games with your baby.
How To Create A Bond With Your Baby – Play games with your baby.

From a very young age, you can play with your baby. Peekaboo is a classic to get the ball rolling and you can play this for hours on end from the second month on. Getting down to your babies level and playing on the ground helps you to bond with your baby and while having fun at the same time. Get down on the floor and interact with your baby and their favourite toys. Ther is a book called games to play with babies that will give you some ideas.

Comfort them when they need it – How to Create a bond with your baby.

How To Create A Bond With Your Baby - Comfort them when they need it.
How To Create A Bond With Your Baby – Comfort them when they need it.

When your baby cries do not leave them to cry out. Leaving your baby cry out will make your bond weaker as opposed to strengthening it. Your baby has no voice and the only way that they can communicate is through crying. When they cry they need something and this your chance to make your bond stronger. It is your job to figure out what it is. It is usually one of a few things; hunger, nappy change, tiredness, pain or teething. After a while, you intuitively start to know what is causing the issues and you can comfort your baby very quickly.

Skin to skin contact – How to create a bond with your baby.

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How To Create A Bond With Your Baby – Skin to skin contact

Our twins were born ten weeks early. Having 30-week old babies in NICU was a tough time. While in NICU we learned about Kangaroo Care as a way of helping to improve our babies health. Kangaroo Care is skin to skin contact that babies crave and is proven to help premature babies outside the womb. Skin to Skin contact is also a very good way to create a bond with your baby outside of the womb. It is satisfying and comforting for both you and your baby embrace sharing body heat with skin to skin contact.

Carry your baby in a baby carrier – How to Create a bond with your baby.

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How To Create A Bond With Your Baby – Carry your baby in a baby carrier

Like with skin to skin contact, carrying your baby close to your body creates a special bond with you and your baby. Initially, as a man, it feels strange to carry your baby on your chest. You do get used to it very quickly and your baby will love to close contact. From a very early age, we had our twins in a solly baby wrap. As they got older and a bit heavier we progressed to the MandukaThe closeness and warmth of being so held close to your body is another great way of bonding with your baby

Get some alone time with your baby – How to Create a bond with your baby.

Get some alone time with your baby – How to Create a bond with your baby
Get some alone time with your baby – How to Create a bond with your baby

In the majority of cases, us men are forced back into the workplace while mother’s get to spend time at home bonding with their babies. When it comes to parenting it’s a mother’s World and us men are expected to play second fiddle. For us to create a bond with our baby we must give the mum’s some mum time, therefore, creating some alone time with you and your baby. Let them go out for the day and enjoy themselves. You can use the alone time to sing, play and read to your baby forging a stronger bond.

Put your phone away – How to Create a bond with your baby.

Put your phone away and lay instead – How to Create a bond with your baby.
Put your phone away and lay instead – How to Create a bond with your baby.

It is important to be present when you are with your child. In this day and age, with constant notifications and distractions from your phone, it becomes very difficult to live in the moment. When you are with your baby then put your phone away. Looking at your phone while playing with your child will create a bad habit for you both. Using your phone when with your baby can create a shorter attention span in your baby. Avoid being on your phone if you want to create a stronger bond with your baby.

Practice gratitude – How to Create a bond with your baby.

Practice gratitude – How to Create a bond with your baby.
Practice gratitude – How to Create a bond with your baby.

Having a child is the best thing that will ever happen to you. It can be stressful and hard work at times but you need to practice gratitude. I use something called the 5-minute journal every morning and evening to remind me of what I am grateful for. My children are nearly always part of my gratitude practice. This conscious habit of writing down what I am grateful for helps to put things in perspective and remind me how lucky I am. If you are present and grateful to be with your child they will feel it. Your actions will speak louder than your words and this will help strengthen the bond with you and your baby.

Conclusion

Mother’s naturally have a special bond with their babies. For men to create this bond takes a lot more hard work and effort. You need to play games, read to them, give them your undivided attention and comfort them when they need it. If you work hard on making time and being present for your baby you will forge a bond that will create an emotionally stable child.

 

 

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