The 7 best books for dads to be 2017
Someone recently told me that there is no book about learning how to be a parent. Without really thinking about it, I subconsciously agreed with the statement and thought that you just figure it out as you go along. In hindsight, I was wrong, there are numerous books on parenting that every parent can learn from. This post is a list of the best books for dads to be in 2017. In the interest of not being a sexist pig, I will allow mums that want to be better parents access this list too :).
This is an excellent read for parents that want to understand themselves better. In parenting from the inside out, Daniel J. Siegel(child psychiatrist), M.D. and Mary Hartzell (early childhood expert), M.Ed will bring you deep on a journey of self-exploration. The book helps parents to understand how their own childhood experiences have a major impact on how we parent. Using neurobiology to explain how interpersonal relationships directly affect the development of the brain. You will be amazed at how memories from your how childhood can influence the decisions you make today. If you want to be more understanding parent then this is the book for you.
This book is very polarising. On the one side, it is filled with practical child-rearing suggestions but it is criticised for its strictness. Parenting with love and logic teaches parents to give children choices as a way of getting things done. It will teach you how to teach your children skills that they will need to make appropriate decisions throughout their life. This approach is very logical and can help parents to discipline their children in a creative way. As with all parenting books, there are some aspects that will open your mind to parenting in a different way. There are also some aspects that not everyone will agree with.
This best selling parenting book is popular for a reason. It’s a very powerful tool that teaches your children to name and understand emotions that they may not yet be able to articulate. How to talk so kids will listen & listen so kids will talk is a great guide for parents and teachers to help them to communicate with children. Highly instructional and practical cards will help you to treat your children with understanding and respect. Although the book was published originally in 1979, the latest edition is highly relevant and up to date.
Alfie Kohn will help you to ask the question “What do kids need?” and how can we meet those needs?”. This approach is based on meeting your children’s most important need, the need for unconditional love. This is contrary to the conventional way of parenting which is to reward and punish children. Unconditional parenting will teach you how to “work with your children” and not against them. With this book, you will teach your children to respect the feelings of others and understand how their behaviour affects those around them.
Any parent with siblings and in particular twins will understand how difficult a job it can be. This book will teach you how to help your siblings cooperate, compete less and cope with conflict. Every child is different and should not necessarily be treated equally. Siblings without rivalry will teach you how to treat children uniquely rather than equally. This book will teach you how to create better communication between siblings which will help your kids work through their differences.
Playful Parenting is the ultimate guide to using play to raise self-confident children. The book spans your child’s childhood. It will teach you how to engage them from the first game of peekaboo to cracking jokes with your teenager. Playing is much more important than most parents think. It is how your child develops confidence, releases stress, breaks through shyness and expresses complex emotions. Playful parenting will make you smile even as it makes you aware of being an effective, enthusiastic mother or father.
The whole brain child from neuropsychiatrist Daniel Siegel is groundbreaking hands-on parenting book that will help you to understand the irrational behaviour of your child as he/she develops. It explains the science behind how your child’s brain is wired and why they act a certain way. Did you ever wonder why your child jumps on the floor of the supermarket and throws a tantrum? Or why they are constantly trying to push the boundaries with their parents? These are not intentional vindictive attacks by your child. These things happen at different stages of your child’s development. This book will help you to understand what is going on and why which will help you to react calmly.
There are many books that teach many different tools and tactics for understanding and nurturing your child. There is no one size fits all method of parenting. The best thing to do is read several different books and take the tools and tactics that suit you and your child best. Reading parenting books while not for everyone will definitely help you to understand yourself and your child’s needs better.
Are there any books that I have missed? Let me know in the comments below.